New Jersey Woman Says Her Date Left Her With $450 Bar Tab After Walking Out Mid-Date: ‘I Would Have Called The Cops Cause WHATTT’
NEW JERSEY — A New Jersey woman’s first date quickly went from promising to humiliating after the man she met up with reportedly walked out mid-date, leaving her with a $450 bar tab — a story that has now gone viral on social media.
TikTok user @andimitchellll, known simply as Andi, posted a video from her car shortly after the shocking incident. Her clip has now racked up more than 220,000 views, as viewers react to what she described as one of the worst dates of her life.
“I just went on a date with a man,” Andi began in the video. “Then this other girl walks into the bar, and he leaves.”
According to her account, she had briefly stepped away to use the restroom, and when she returned, her date’s behavior suddenly changed. Moments later, he told her, “Yeah, I’m gonna go,” and walked out of the bar.
When Andi stepped outside, she was met by the bartender — who happens to be a friend of hers — and learned the truth.
“The bartender, who I’m very good friends with because my best friend works at this bar, was like, ‘Yeah, he just left,’” she said.
The final shock came when she discovered that her date had left her with a bill totaling $450.
‘I Can’t Date Men Anymore’
Visibly frustrated, Andi vented about her experience in the video, saying she couldn’t believe what had happened.
“I cannot do it,” she said, shaking her head. “I can’t date men anymore.”
Her story sparked a heated debate online, with many commenters expressing disbelief over both the man’s actions and the expensive bill he left behind.
“$450? What are you ordering lol,” one commenter joked.
Another wrote, “Just pay yours and have them call the cops. I mean, you have his name, right?”
Others saw irony in the story, pointing out that men have often complained about similar situations in the past.
“Doesn’t feel good, does it? Welcome to our world,” one user commented, suggesting that the dating double standard had flipped.
Is Chivalry Really Dead?
The incident has reignited the long-running debate over whether chivalry still exists in modern dating.
A New York Post feature recently explored the evolving meaning of chivalry, noting that traditional gestures like opening doors or paying for dinner have been replaced by subtler forms of respect — such as checking if someone got home safe or sharing music playlists.
@andimitchellll What is happening w men these days is chivalry dead?!?! WHERE R THE GOOD ONES???? #dating
While many women claim that “chivalry is extinct,” others argue it’s simply evolving. Men, on the other hand, believe they’re still being considerate — just in different ways that aren’t always recognized.
One Reddit user summarized the modern dilemma perfectly:
“Extinct? No. Endangered? Yes.”
A Lesson in First Dates
Though Andi hasn’t shared whether she ever contacted the man again, the video has clearly resonated with other women frustrated by bad dating behavior.
Some even said they’d have taken legal action:
“I would have called the cops cause WHATTT,” one viewer commented.
The viral story serves as a reminder to tread carefully when meeting someone new — and maybe, as one commenter joked, “always split the bill on the first date.”
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